Winter can send us into a state of physical and mental “hibernation”, and although many people look ahead to the arrival of Spring with great optimism and pleasure, for many people (for example those suffering with depression) the lighter evenings and longer days can in fact create more feelings of loneliness and low mood, as the days seem longer with less opportunity to “hide away”.
Liane explains, “This is a good time of year to take stock and give ourselves the opportunity to have a kind of mental “spring-clean”. What do I mean by this? It’s about coming out from that hibernating, wintery mind set and having a really good clear- out of things that might be holding us back.”
Did you know that the key to a more healthy and happy mental state is to DO the THREE positives – positive actions, positive thoughts, and positive interaction?
Negative self-talk can prevent us from doing things we want to do or from behaving and acting in a positive way. Our minds cannot differentiate between imagination and reality, so if we keep thinking about things we should have done, or tell ourselves we will never be able to do something, that negative repetition impacts on us and becomes a habit- to think we can’t rather than think we can.
For example, if you have imagined something going wrong 100 times, when in reality it went OK, then you actually have 100 negative experiences of the event. Here it’s important to point out that every negative thought we have is accumulated and stored and converted into anxiety, and this is where our stresses come from.
So, we can either negatively introspect about the past, or negatively forecast the future, but neither of these approaches serve the purpose of freeing ourselves of the symptomology of depression, anger, anxiety etc.
If the average person thinks about 50,000 thoughts a day, and about 10 per cent of those are negative, that’s 5000 negative thoughts a day. The good news is that we can change these negative thoughts and habits into positive ones – Solution Focused Hypnotherapists have the tools to do so.
So, lets dispel some of the myths. Hypnosis is also referred to as trance. Hypnotherapists seek to help people re-address thought patterns to get them operating from the so called intellectual part of the brain, as opposed to the original primitive part. The primitive brain holds all of our sometimes inappropriate behavioural patterns and responses, and is responsible for regulating chemicals such as adrenaline. It also contains what is known as the fight, flight, depression area of the brain.
If we want to come up with a proper assessment of any given situation, and we want to be able to innovate, make good decisions, and react to situations in a calm and appropriate manner, we need to get back into the intellectual brain. And the more we do so, the more we re-gain control of our lives.
Liane comments: “it’s a huge advantage that we use trance. Trance is very normal. We go into trance many times a day, whilst driving, watching TV, or out for a run. Trance is when the two minds come together to focus on the same thing. In this state we have access to the subconscious mind, which is open to appropriate suggestions. It’s important to know that the client is always in control, and can always pull themselves back into a normal state if they wish.”
In the same way that we may decide to spring clean our homes, or sort out the summer wardrobe, we can sort out old thoughts, feelings and issues and re-evaluate them – do they still serve a purpose?